Trans People Are Allowed to Feel Hurt
My Medium posts do not allow responses. While I don’t rely on income from my stories to pay bills, I am still missing a valuable opportunity to increase engagement and the number of people who read my words by not allowing responses or conversations on my posts. However, my time on Earth has helped me realize that my mental health is more important than exposing myself to transphobia on a more regular basis than I absolutely have to.
The culture war on trans people means I can rarely go a single day without seeing or hearing someone’s opinion about how people like me shouldn’t exist. Outright statements that trans people aren’t real, should be harmed, et cetera are certainly distressing and hard to shake, but the sentiment shared every time I (briefly) open the comments on my posts is infinitely more frustrating. It’s always some tired flavor of…
“It’s not THEIR fault that YOU don’t pass. You can’t possibly expect people to read your mind! It’s so unreasonable to feel hurt about being misgendered, and even more inexcusable to tell people about feeling hurt! I’m an old cishet white guy, so believe me, I know what I’m talking about and my opinions are…
