There is a sensationalist tale that impressionable children “become” transgender because they are influenced and suggestible enough to pursue one of the most difficult experiences someone can go through — a gender transition. In the mind of those who hate gender diversity, the obvious solution is to shield children from…

You could learn a lot from us. — It isn’t always easy for me to explain a scheduling conflict when planning for professional meetings. I’m a queer and trans unmarried person who has committed, loving friendships that often call for being there for my people. When others say “I have to pick up my husband/wife/spouse from the airport,”…

In another life, I was a cis lesbian. It was a hard-fought identity label for me. I spent the majority of my life dating guys and I was pretty feminine for quite some time before longing to demonstrate my queerness more visibly. Other queer women dismissed me and questioned if…

When I was in middle school, I prided myself on being the only girl in my friend group. At lunch, my three male friends and I would crowd around a circular table to eat our mediocre school-provided meals. I lamented in my journal about wishing I could be in their…

“Don’t worry, be happy” — unless you aren’t. Maybe you’re a lucky one. Maybe you have the best family, a dream job, a fulfilling hobby, fun friendships, interesting stories, and a healthy body and mind. Congratulations to you! That sounds great. Even so, there are things you can’t avoid. Federal…

There are certain beliefs that are commonly seen as indefensible; the sort of values, attitudes, and speech that will remove an individual as a viable option for social connection. For me and many who are committed to ideas of social equity, that line would encompass unchecked racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia…

I’ve done a lot at 1AM. I have finalized documentation and wrote emails that are scheduled to send seven hours in the future. I have meal planned and cleaned my kitchen. I have read theory to better guide my therapy practice. I have tweaked my web site and balanced my…

*cw: violence, harassment, transphobia** Being trans gets a bad rap, especially from those who sensationalize our existences and say ridiculous things, including that trans women transition solely to rape cis women in bathrooms (as if it isn’t far easier for cis men to rape women), or that trans men transition…