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The Transgender Therapist
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I Don't Give a Damn if You Don't Want to Be Called Cisgender

Trans people have experiences that, until more recently, were not describable with existing language. Cisgender people who become angry with the label “cis” often declare with indignation that they did not give consent for someone else to label them. The complete lack of self awareness in this assertion would almost…

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I Don't Give a Damn if You Don't Want to Be Called Cisgender
I Don't Give a Damn if You Don't Want to Be Called Cisgender
Lgbtqia

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What If You’re Not Actually Trans?

How to cope with this terrifying question. — I came out as trans when I was 26 years old. I started hormones a few months later, and legally changed my name a few months after that. While I had many supportive people around me, it was still one of the hardest things I’ve done in my life. …

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What If You’re Not Actually Trans?
What If You’re Not Actually Trans?
LGBTQ

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Mar 21

The Lil Nas X Controversy is Ridiculous, Not Transphobic

We can’t afford to alienate allies. My fellow trans siblings. I have a message. Lil Nas X is not the enemy. In fact, he could not possibly be any further from being the enemy. On March 14th, Lil Nas X posted the tweet above, playfully noticing the resemblance that he…

LGBTQ

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The Lil Nas X Controversy is Ridiculous, Not Transphobic
The Lil Nas X Controversy is Ridiculous, Not Transphobic
LGBTQ

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Mar 5

I Won’t Speak to a Single Cis Person Today…Again

Multiple times a month, I go an entire day without speaking to a single cis person. I am a therapist, and most of my clients are trans and/or nonbinary. Almost all of my friends are trans and/or nonbinary. I don’t talk to my cis mom every day, though I love…

Transgender

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I Won’t Speak to a Single Cis Person Today…Again
I Won’t Speak to a Single Cis Person Today…Again
Transgender

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Dec 19, 2022

How Women Should Answer Work Emails

Women are held to different expectations in the workplace than the men they work beside. They balance on a fine line between being dismissed and belittled, or being seen as aggressive and bitchy. It’s a frustrating double standard that I know intimately, because I experienced it before I embraced life…

Women

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How Women Should Answer Work Emails
How Women Should Answer Work Emails
Women

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Dec 8, 2022

Why I Stopped Using the Term “Chosen Family”

Family is family. CW: References to bigotry, racism, sexism, queerphobia and xenophobia. Having been estranged from the majority of my extended biological, blood related family, I have come to build my own version of family. This is by no accident, and generally the way I prefer to experience my life…

Family

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Why I Stopped Using the Term “Chosen Family”
Why I Stopped Using the Term “Chosen Family”
Family

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Oct 20, 2022

Trans People Are Allowed to Feel Hurt

My Medium posts do not allow responses. While I don’t rely on income from my stories to pay bills, I am still missing a valuable opportunity to increase engagement and the number of people who read my words by not allowing responses or conversations on my posts. …

Transgender

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Trans People Are Allowed to Feel Hurt
Trans People Are Allowed to Feel Hurt
Transgender

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Oct 14, 2022

LGBT Friendly is Not Trans Friendly

Claiming to value queer customers and clients, whether out of genuine interest or purely for marketing purposes, has caught on and become incredibly common. Google reviews and Yelp allow businesses to tag their location or profile as “LGBT friendly,” and businesses that promote themselves as queer friendly are more profitable…

LGBTQ

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LGBT Friendly is Not Trans Friendly
LGBT Friendly is Not Trans Friendly
LGBTQ

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Sep 2, 2022

Thank you for your input!
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Paul John Poles

I'm pretty stoked for this conversation so if you would like to discontinue it, let me know.

I'm pretty stoked for this conversation so if you would like to discontinue it, let me know. It makes sense that you might explain things in a way that made sense to you so that trans people who are specifically *similar to you* could have things click. However, making definitive…

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·Aug 3, 2022

As a Queer Person, I Hate Being Asked About My Own Self Care

It’s a struggle to be queer today, especially as someone who doesn’t know how to answer this query… — CW: Transphobic comments mentioned. The world is ever more discouraging for me as a queer person. The public political fights about abortion rights in the US has taken a sickening twist into everybody bashing trans and nonbinary (TGNB) people, regardless of which side of the issue they belong to. …

LGBTQ

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As a Queer Person, I Hate Being Asked About My Own Self Care
As a Queer Person, I Hate Being Asked About My Own Self Care
LGBTQ

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The Transgender Therapist

The Transgender Therapist

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Queer, white trans man living in the Pacific Northwest with a grudge and a sharp tongue.

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